Response to Still Wondering What I Did Wrong...........
Ok, for starters, one of the things you did wrong was to jump
into a relationship with someone you barely knew (or thats
the way it appears from the words you wrote). I applaud you
for finally getting out of the abusive relationship you
were in, but what you need to do now is find yourself; not
find another man. Im guessing you are somewhere around
40 years old, but you still dont know who YOU are. Take time
to develop yourself as a woman. Show your daughter, by example,
that a woman does not NEED A MAN to be complete. Instead of
spending time chasing men, do something with your life
by yourself, for yourself. To have a relationship with
a good man can be very fulfilling and a wonderful lifes
experience, but dont look for a man to take care of you financially.
Do that on your own. Your daughter didnt ask to be born,
you owe her the best life you can give her, and Im not talking
about money. Im talking about self-worth, values, and
morals. Its not unusual for a man to consider another mans
child baggage. Every child needs unconditional love
as they are growing. Without it, they too will grow up feeling
insecure and worthless. I understand that you want someone
to love you, but love yourself first, or you will continue
to make bad choices.
Many people, mostly the men, add articles here at Adult FriendFinder about
people looking for love at this site.
Read them, and you
will find that an overwhelming number of the men are here
looking for what the site advertises; sex with no strings.
Theres nothing wrong with that if that is what you are looking
for as well, but I do not get that impression from reading
your article. The odds of you finding a good man, who wants
to help you raise your daughter, and treat her as his, are
overwhelming in this forum. Please do not do this to your
child. Make a good home for her. You can do it all by yourself,
honest! A good man looks for a woman to stand by his side,
not beneath him. Become that woman, self assured, confident
and independent. Then, and only then, will you have something
of value to offer someone else. Bless you, I wish you the
best of luck.